Alternative Lifestyles Booklist

One aspect of coaching or counseling is making suggestions or recommendations and sharing good resources.  These are some of my alternative lifestyle book lists.  Just a few lifestyle types are represented here.  However, if I listed an author or title then I am recommending them as quality, if not definitive text on that subject.  If you have a favorite author that I did not include, please, send the information to me so that we can all be more aware of who is putting the best knowledge out there.   Read More on Alternative Lifestyles

Have you been wondering what books to read?  Did you do a Google search on your topic of interest or searched on Amazon?  Have you asked friends who are knowledgeable on the subject?  If you take the time to read through one or more of my lists you will be The One Who Knows in your friend group.  You can share the list that interested you.  Aisha-Sky Gates

 

 

Polyamory**Nonmonogamy**Open Marriage

Benson, Peter J. The Polyamory Handbook: a User’s Guide. Bloomington, IN: Authorhouse. 2008.

Chapman, Mim. What Does Polyamory Look Like? New York, NY: iUniverse, Inc. 2010.

Easton, Dossie and Janet W. Hardy.   The Ethical Slut: a Practical Guide to Polyamory Open Relationships & Other Adventures, 2nd Ed. Berkeley, CA: Celestial Arts. 2009.

Kaldera, Raven. Power Circuits: Polyamory in a Power Dynamic. Hubbardston, MA: Alfred Press. 2010.

Ravenscroft, Anthony. Polyamory: Roadmaps for the Clueless & Hopeful. Santa Fe, NM: Fenris Brothers. 2004.

Veaux, Franklin and Eve Rickert. More Than Two: a Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory. Portland, OR: Thorntree Press. 2014.

Winston, Dedeker. The Smart Girl’s to Polyamory: Everything You Need to Know about Open Relationships, Non-Monogamy, and Alternative Love. New York, NY: Skyhorse Publishing. 2017.

 

 

Swinging ** Cuckold

Cox, Amanda and Jane Lanewood. Swinger Secrets: A Couple’s Guide to the Lifestyle. Blue Flames Books. 2016.

Donatello, Casey.  In Bed with Strangers: Swinging My Way to Self-Discovery.  Exposit Books.  2018.

Riley, Jenna A. Want to share?: Six Easy and Highly Effective Tips to Turn Your Swinging, Cuckolding, or Hotwife Fantasy into Reality (For Men or Women). Self-published. 2019.

 

 

. . . for Power Exchange People

  1. Building the Team: cooperative power dynamic relationships. Raven Kaldera and Josh Tenpenny. Alfred Press, 2015.
  2. Dear Raven and Josh: questions and answers about master/slave relationships. Alfred Press, 2013.
  3. The Heart of Dominance: a guide to practicing consensual dominance. Anton Fuller. 2016.
  4. How to be a Happy and Healthy Submissive: a practical guide to making your fantasies come true. Kate Kinsey. Nevermore Press, 2014.
  5. BDSM Mastery—relationships: a guide for creating mindful relationships for Dominants and submissives. Robert J. Rubel Ph.D. Red Eight Ball Press. Austin, 2014.
  6. Master/slave Relations: handbook of theory and practice. Robert J. Rubel Ph.D. The Nazca Plains Corporation, Las Vegas, NV, 2006.
  7. Mistakes were Made (but not by me): why we justify foolish beliefs, bad decisions, and hurtful acts. Carol Tavris and Elliot Aronson. Harcourt, Orlando, FL, 2007.
  8. Our Lives, Our History: Consensual Master/slave relationships from ancient times to the 21st Peter Tupper, ed. Perfectbound Press, New York, 2016.
  9. Servant Leadership in Action: how you can achieve great relationships and results. Ken Blanchard & Renee Broadwell, ed. Berrett-Koehler Publishers, 2018.
  10. Sexual Outsiders: understanding BDSM sexualities and communities. David M. Ortmann and Richard A. Sprott. Rowman & Littlefield Publishers, Lanham, Maryland, 2013.
  11. Surrender, Submit, Serve Her. Key Barrett. Key Barrett Publishing, 2016.
  12. Unequal Partnership: a dating guide for loving non-egalitarian relationships. Aisha-Sky Gates. Selenite Press, 2017.
  13. Uniquely Dominant in a D/s Relationship. Ms. Rika. Lulu.com, 2019. Part of a three book series.
  14. Whale Done!: the power of positive relationships. Ken Blanchard, et al. The Free Press, NY, 2002.
  15. Wired for Dating: how understanding neurobiology and attachment style can help you find your ideal mate. Stan Tatkin. New Harbinger Publications, Oakland, CA, 2016.
  16. Wired for Love: how understanding your partner’s brain and attachment style can help you defuse conflict and build a secure relationship. Stan Tatkin. New Harbinger Publications, Oakland, CA, 2011.

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A Sub-collection Particularly for S-type Partners

  • Courage to Submit:  the guide for the submissive male seeking a dominant woman. Wallace Verner. Lulu.com, 2011.
  • How to be a Happy and Healthy Submissive: A practical guide to making your fantasies come true. Kate Kinsey. Nevermore Press, 2014.
  • Real Service. Joshua Tenpenny. Alfred Press, 2014.
  • Slavecraft: Roadmap for Erotic Servitude. Guy Baldwin. 2004.
  • The Service Notebook. Joshua Tenpenny. Alfred Press, 2012.
  • Unequal Partnership: a dating guide for loving non-egalitarian relationships. Aisha-Sky Gates. Selenite Press, 2017.
  • Whale Done!: the power of positive relationships. Ken Blanchard, et al. The Free Press, NY, 2002.
  • What Submissives Want to Know. Kate Kinsey. Middletown, DE, 2018.