Gates Counseling

Life positive coaching for all alternative lifestyle choices.

You’d Appreciate a Constructive, Helpful Discussion? Call me.

Wouldn’t it be wonderful to talk to someone who is knowledgeable and accepting of your alternative life choices?  As a counselor, coach, and mentor, I can support your Life Transitions, … Continue reading

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Power With, not Power Over

[“Unequal Partnership,” “leading partner,” “implementing partner” are references to my book, Unequal Partnership:  a dating guide to loving non-egalitarian relationships.] We, all, know examples from our own lives or, perhaps, … Continue reading

July 29, 2017

Power and Control in Relationships

Power.  Control.  These are the reflexive muscles in a relationship.  It is reflexive because orientation toward power and control comes from a deep place in the psyche.  Your own orientation … Continue reading

July 29, 2017

1b. An Alternative Notion of What is Fair

  [This text is an excerpt from my book, Unequal Partnership: a dating guide for loving non-egalitarian relationships.] Unequal partners create and maintain fairness by aiming themselves toward equity, not … Continue reading

July 23, 2017 · Leave a comment

1a. Magnifying Egalitarianism: we say “egalitarian” but do we mean it?

[This text is an excerpt from my book, Unequal Partnership: a dating guide for loving non-egalitarian relationships.]   I’ll give you my best talk about attempting an egalitarian relationship.  Americans … Continue reading

July 23, 2017 · Leave a comment

How to Listen Your Way to Your Mate

So, now, here you are feeling butterflies in the tummy because some boy or girl thinks you’re hot.  You’ve decided that your new person is a keeper.  Great.  How much … Continue reading

July 23, 2017 · Leave a comment

How to Feel Your Way Toward Your Mate

You can feel your way toward that right person for you.  Feel, not think.  Right now, imagine being your partner self.  Be what you want to be today.  Don’t wait.  … Continue reading

July 23, 2017 · Leave a comment

Read My Book

    Unequal Partnership is a non-egalitarian relationship theory that I developed over the last six years. It has a lot to offer like pursuit of personal happiness as a … Continue reading

July 21, 2017

I Love Couples

    I will be your relationship counselor. What if you just want to talk to someone?  Free introductory phone conversation. Set up an appointment with me.  I have a quirky, creative intuitive … Continue reading

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